Since my vision of my grandfather in Spirit when I was around
8 years old, I knew there was life after death. He came to me in the
middle of the night. I sat up in bed, feeling comforted by the vision
of his face and body sitting on the bed, facing me. He told me about
what he liked about his life: The animals on his farm, his connection
with nature and the fact he could do things the way he wanted to. He
ended up saying that he felt the only thing that was important was to
live a good life. What I got from that was to keep that goal in focus.
The goal of a good life did not mean building an empire. It meant
feeling good about your memories and what you leave behind.
I did not know then that I would be working more with those on the
other side as I got older. An esteemed astrologer friend told me that I
was going to help with those crossing over. Although I had an
experience of life on the other side under hypnosis in my early 20's
that has since served as a reliable guide for how things are, I did not
have many experiences with that facet of life until my mother died 12
years ago. She had always been the one to ask me spiritual questions,
as I was ever the spiritual student.
The time came for her to cross over and I was with her at home. It was
a journey and adventure for everyone involved, a kind of birth. There
was grief, of course, but truly a sense of a new beginning. She
contacted me clearly several times... sometimes clairaudiently,
sometimes in clairvoyant visions. She told me she was happy, was free
of her arthritis, and that she knew she was loved. She also contacted
two other members of my family. Now we experience her visits as a smell
of pancakes wafting through a closed, quiet house in the morning,
reminding us of how she liked to make pancakes on Sunday mornings, or a
reminder to give her a call in the morning like I used to do. We have
all had vivid dreams of her.
Since then, I have had several experiences with those crossing over. I
have gone over with people as they die, me in a dream state, to show
them there is nothing to fear. It is an easy transition, a simple
letting go of the body as one lets go in the dream state. The only
difference is that I come back. I have learned much in this time, and
am continuing to learn.
Among the things I have learned:
Development of
awareness of yourself as a spiritual being in physical life helps you
be more aware on the other side. *However if someone professes to be an
atheist or generally not believe in Spirit, it does not mean that
person is not evolved or aware or will not transition well. One's
spiritual evolvement is not determined very much by how life was lived
in this lifetime. It is a quality determined by how several lives are
lived and the person may or may not be aware of how evolved he or she
is.
It is possible to cross over in full
consciousness, with no trauma to your spiritual, conscious self.
People who have been unaware and unloving in the physical
sometimes discover their capacities for love and healing after they
cross over, helping to heal family members left behind.
People can be very busy on the other side! There are many
dedicated to helping humanity from a spiritual perspective. There are
also those helping others to adjust to being in spirit as they cross
over, and those who want to learn about things they didn't learn in
physical life.
There is no hell, only a sense of sleep if one has
been depressed or very cut off from hope and faith in physical life.
One wakes up when one is ready. Love is unconditional... the only judge
is yourself. The love people on the other side feel, however, is so
fulfilling and healing, that one easily lets go of self recrimination.
There is a period of letting go of earthly memories. This is
a kind of revisioning of the past, letting it go as it is seen.
I helped my mother with this in my dream state after she died.
Those loved ones still in physical life often have dreams of
the loss or physical death of the one who crossed over. These sometimes
can be gruesome or lacking in any sense of spirit. I find that these
are from the adjustment on both sides to a letting go of the person as
he/she was in physical life. These are most often followed by visions
(waking or in dreams) of the healthy, happy, person in his/her new
life.
There are many loving guides waiting for everyone who is
crossing over. It is the belief of the one crossing over that more or
less determines who will greet him/her, but the love is there
nonetheless.
If you did not see the person as he/she was dying, and feel
bad or think the person is mad at you, you will most likely be
surprised at the love and joy you feel communicated to you. What the
person on the other side focuses on is the love, the true light of your
spirit, not on actions or lack of action in life. I have never seen
hate or recrimination or anger over anything that was done. They go
through a process of letting go so they are able to be more of
who they are in spirit, without ego limitations and judgments.
Those on the other side often really want to communicate with
you! However, if you believe they are dead, and do not think of talking
to them or wanting to visit with them, they turn their attention
elsewhere. However, I have never had a failure when someone wants to
connect with someone on the other side. They are always willing to
communicate. They often do so when they can most easily reach you. This
could be as you go to sleep at night, or wake up in the morning. This
feels like a sense of being with the person, whether you see the person
or not. Sometimes they jump in and touch you... this often comes as a
pleasant memory of the person out of the blue. Most often they contact
you in your dreams. If you have had a loved one cross over, watch your
dreams. Communication depends both on your ability to receive and the
person's ability to communicate. I was astounded by the vision of my
grandfather and the many visions and clairaudient experiences I had
with my mother. This does not happen all the time, but I have heard
many other people having similar experiences.
We can help those on the other side. Sometimes people need
help to let go of sad memories in earth life. I had a friend who died
suddenly and sadly who appeared to me in a dream. He was at a party,
but was isolated in a back bedroom. He asked me for help. He needed
love and healing. Later, I had many dreams of him being happy,
communicating with me, asking me what was going on in my life. Send
positive thoughts, love, and do not cling to the person out of loss or
abandonment. He or she is not gone, just in a slightly different
dimension.
Further Help
I can easily serve as a translator for you if you want to contact
someone on the other side. It helps if you realize the person is not
really gone. He or she is very much like he/she was in life, only more
free of earthly burdens and worries. The person on the other side often
wants to communicate certain things, such as having seen you at his/her
funeral, things that he/she liked in life and generally things that
will inspire and heal you. Sometimes they are funny, or very simple and
straightforward, but always inspiring. I do not do trance channeling.
Rather I do conscious channeling and translating between you. I see
images of the person and receive what the person wants to say. You can
ask questions, too! Often clients feel or see what I am experiencing,
as well. Sometimes people have unbending expectations of what the other
person will say, and are disappointed if this does not come through. It
is good to remember that I focus like a radio receiver and have to tune
into things. Some things come in better than others, just like on a
radio. Also, the person may have a different agenda than you expected,
so be open and without limiting expectations. I have never had a
failure in connecting with anyone on the other side. I can do this over
the phone or in person.
I have to say that doing these sessions with those on the other side
are among my favorite sessions. Even with clients who have limiting
expectations, the session ends on a fulfilling, healing note, with the
communication channel open and clear. It is uplifting, healing and
inspiring for all involved!
